Are you being abuse?

I was having a "dirty food" trip with one of my girl friends last night when suddenly, she asked me:

Can an emotionally and physically abusive partner really be in love with you?

That question from her made me turned my head with angst on my face.

Of course, I asked her if she's being physically and emotionally abuse by her boy friend. And thanks, she's not, so she point her finger to the couple in which the girl was being beaten of bad words by the guy. Imagine that? You are being beaten by somebody who supposed to show yo nothing but innermost love and respect? Damn.

My friend and I know that we don't have any right to judge the two lovers it was just that we were affected by what we seen ans heard from the guy's mouth addressing all the bad words to the girl. They were just in the mid 20, we believed. 

Why there are partners who can do that to their other partner? Why there are guy who can make that to a girl? Girls are supposed to be taken care of, to be loved, to be treated as princess. In the first place, it's the guy who usually court a girl, so why courting a girl and wait for her "yes" if you guy will just maltreat her? Saying bad words to a girl is a kind of maltreatment, in case you don't know. I honestly don't understand why you have to do that.

And to the girl, why letting the guy to maltreat you. Why you just let him beat you? Because you love him, you'll say? What you define as "love" and the abuser's notion of "love' are two entirely different things. The abuser who happened to be your guy is in "love" with his sources of gratification and with people he controls, and you are one of the people he can control. I believe,there is no love in abuse--they do not co-exist. Love never abuses another or tries to control another through abuse.

Girls, do not let anybody abuse you. Nobody have the right to do that to you. No one. You are a girl. You are supposed to be love, to be treated as princess. Girls, know your worth. Love yourself.